How To Speak With Confidence During Public Speaking February 4, 2011
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SPEAK CONFIDENCE ON STAGES, Harus membina keyakinan diri terlebih dahulu dengan bermula dari dalam diri dan bermula sebelum anda memulakan tugasan sebagai speaker mahupun presentor. Persiapan itu sangat penting yang mana ia bermula dari dalam dan luaran anda, bagaimana anda mempamerkan dari segi penampilan, pemakaian, gerak geri, personaliti, rasa bersyukur, mendoakan rakan-rakan, bercakap, latihan, senaman dan bersedakahlah sentiasa agar keyakinan anda tidak hilang dan sentiasa segar kemana sahaja anda pergi. Layari: http://effectivepresenter.wordpress.com/
Himpunan penyegar minda! January 29, 2011
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Jangan disiksa anakmu, jangan dirotan dan ditampar sehingga merah, jangan dicucuk sehingga berdarah! Biarpun kamu memakaikan baju koyak rabak, badannya terkena nasjis dia tetap mencarimu dan memanggilmu… bukannya reban ayam, kandang kuda mahupun longkang tempatnya tetapi ‘pelukan kasih sayang’ menjadikan anak itu menjadi manusia.
Jika kamu telah mengira berapa banyak DOA yang telah kamu lontarkan sejak dulu lagi, andalah GURUKU.. Aku sedang mencarimu…
Lagu ~ Kalau cantik senyum cantik mesti cantik lagi, Senyum sikit nak tengok ada tak lesung pipit, Kalau tak ada pun aku masih mahu cubit…
Menghargai setiap kali bangun tidur, ambil masa anda sedikit untuk menjenguk di luar jendela, rumah dan berfikir sejenak anda masih boleh melihat kelas tempat kita menumpang untuk menuntut ilmu. Selamat pagi jumaat, nampaknya KL mendung, negeri lain tak tahu… walau siapa pun anda, hormatilah mereka, tidak semestinya HIGH CLASS maka senyuman itu hilang kerana ia cukup mujarab untuk mereka yang lalu disisi anda…
Bersembang dengan orang miskin yang meminta sedekah di jalanan lebih baik dari bersembang dengan manusia kaya yang berhati busuk…
Perlihatkan betapa anda mengambil berat terhadapnya, bukan betapa anda ingin mengetahui beratnya ataupun sebaliknya..Walaupun banyak yang anda tahu, mereka akan berkata.. ADA KU KISAH!!! So, apa yang perlu anda lakukan untuk menawan hatinya? Show them how much you care! how much you give…gunalah ia walau apapun bidang anda, NOT ONLY CINTA…
Hidup yang tidak teratur amat mudah dijangkiti penyakit, tugas anda mengubatinya, mencari penawarnya dan membersihkannya..
Alhamdulillah, Elhamdulillah… All praises to Allah, All praises to Allah.
I wanna thank you for all the things that you’ve done You’ve done for me through all my years I’ve been lost You guided me from all the ways that were wrong And did you give me hope~ MAHER ZAIN – Thank You Allah
Ah saya tahu berapa GAJI si polan tu, saya tahu apa kerja dia tu… suddenly you ask me, ko buat apa ya? hehehe, berapa masyuk tiap bulan ah? so WHY SHOULD I TELL U IF YOU KNOW ABOUT IT?
Pernah melihat lumba kuda? bukan main kuda ya.. bagaimana ia berlumba untuk memenangi perlumbaan hingga kegarisan penamat, walaupun kaki yang berusaha untuk ke garisan itu tetapi kepala yang sampai dahulu akan dikira sebagai pemenang…begitu juga manusia yang berusaha sebaik mungkin untuk menundukan kepala untuk memenanginya, body is your ENGINE! mind is your KEY! touch is your WIN!, you know what I mean?
Egokah kamu jika sanggup melakukan perkara BAHAYA dihadapan anak buah? TIDAK! TIDAK! TIDAK! Anda lakukan kerana ingin memimpin, menjadi pemimpin, membimbing dan layak mengepalai selagi diperlukan..
Apa yang kita nampak, baca, dengar dan lakukan setiap hari akan MEMPENGARUHI = MATA!, MULUT! TELINGA! dan apa yang kita SEBARKAN dari hati dan akal samada yang BENAR atau BETUL sangat-sangat mempengaruhi kepada yang melihat dan yang mendengar..
Imbas balik apa yg anda lakukan dari pagi tadi, jika terlalu fokus.. masa itu terlalu cepat berlalu… tidak sedar sekarang sudah petang, kalau banyak buang masa pun petang pun tidak sedar juga..
Manusia bukan sahaja memiliki kuasa sebagai pembeli tetapi memiliki kuasa untuk menolak jika lelaki atau wanita itu ingin menawarkan dirinya sebagai pasangan seumur hidup. Tidak salah menolak dan tidak salah mengundurkan diri, apa yang penting caranya betul dan tidak menyakitkan orang samada yang nampak, tidak nampak dan yang jelas kelihatan oleh orang sekeliling..
Orang yg BESAR tidak semestinya BESAR KEPALA! Orang yang BLUR tidak semestinya TIADA KEPALA!
The Smarter You! The Richer You! The Healthier You! and the Better You! ~ Now, Today, 2 morow n 4 ever!!!
Tidak perlu marah-marah ya, kerana anda perlu CANTIK DAN KACAK bila bangun esok pagi..
Bila hari-hari buat perkara itu mesti JADI!! Semakin lama semakin dekat ia akan jadi HARIJADI! Setiap tahun hari itu pasti jadi, ia akan berulang dan tidak pernah tak jadi ~ slmt harijadi untuk yang lepas dan yang menyusul, jangan fikirkan umur anda semakin tua, fikirkan apa yang boleh anda sumbangkan selagi mampu…
Anda boleh berjaya dan kaya jika tahu siapa diri anda yang sebenar. Jika berbakat! itu tidak cukup! harus seiring dengan kemahiran, minat, kemampuan dan INGIN BUAT! BUAT SAMPAI JADI!! Bukan sekadar cakap, meniru seperti orang mengantuk disorongkan BANTAL!!!
Ubah cara berfikir! Kejayaan itu semakin hampir. September 2, 2010
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Bagaimana anda spt memiliki kuasa (segalanya dtg drinya) menjadikan penonton anda berdiri sambil bertepuk tangan, tersenyum lebar & dlm hati mereka..wow! wah! uhh! Anda dpt melihat penonton spt diawang-awangan (sweet dream). Dedahkan kelainan anda, produk, kecanggihan, keseronokan & keperihatinan n your style…
Memperbaiki diri memerlukan pengorbanan & kesabaran. Lakukan dgn kesungguhan, minta petunjuk darinya. Sentiasa belajar utk memaafkan diri anda dan org lain. Org memberi dgn hati kotor balaslah dgn hati bersih. Biarkan diri anda menjadi siapa diri anda yg sebenar, org akan kenal dan tahu kebenarannya. Kritikan adalah pembina semangat, mental, fizikal, rohani & spritual. Ada sesuatu dlm diri anda yg anda tidak nampak.
Setiap kita telah dibekalkan kunci maka bawalah ia kemana sahaja anda pergi,jika tidak anda hanya mampu melihat dan berangan. Sama lah spt kita tidak dpt memasuki rumah yg dihias indah, cantik lagi menawan, hanya terpaku melihat dan mencium baunya dri luar. Gunalah akal & fikiran utk lebih kreatif dan berinovasi.
KEJAYAAN itu mempunyai beberapa mata kail dan setiap m/kail tergantung. MOTIVATION, MENTOR, WACANA, VISI, TEAM, BELAJAR & MENGAJAR, INSPIRASI, COACH! Tips berulang: Teori dan Praktikal perlu seimbang, 80% praktikal dan 20% teori tidak lagi berkesan…
Why Coaching is the Way to Go in Team Management August 29, 2010
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When you hear the word “coach”, what comes first into your mind? Do you picture a basketball team with a man/woman shouting out directions? Or perhaps a football team with a man/woman pacing to and fro and calling out the names of the players?
Coaching is no longer reserved to sports teams; it is now one of the key concepts in leadership and management. Why is coaching popular?
1. Coaching levels the playing field.
Coaching is one of the six emotional leadership styles proposed by Daniel Goleman. Moreover, it is a behavior or role that leaders enforce in the context of situational leadership. As a leadership style, coaching is used when the members of a group or team are competent and motivated, but do not have an idea of the long-term goals of an organization. This involves two levels of coaching: team and individual. Team coaching makes members work together. In a group of individuals, not everyone may have nor share the same level of competence and commitment to a goal. A group may be a mix of highly competent and moderately competent members with varying levels of commitment. These differences can cause friction among the members. The coaching leader helps the members level their expectations. Also, the coaching leader manages differing perspectives so that the common goal succeeds over personal goals and interests. In a big organization, leaders need to align the staffs’ personal values and goals with that of the organization so that long-term directions can be pursued.
2. Coaching builds up confidence and competence.
Individual coaching is an example of situational leadership at work. It aims to mentor one-on-one building up the confidence of members by affirming good performance during regular feedbacks; and increase competence by helping the member assess his/her strengths and weaknesses towards career planning and professional development. Depending on the individual’s level of competence and commitment, a leader may exercise more coaching behavior for the less-experienced members. Usually, this happens in the case of new staffs. The direct supervisor gives more defined tasks and holds regular feedbacks for the new staff, and gradually lessens the amount of coaching, directing, and supporting roles to favor delegating as competence and confidence increase.
3. Coaching promotes individual and team excellence.
Excellence is a product of habitual good practice. The regularity of meetings and constructive feedback is important in establishing habits. Members catch the habit of constantly assessing themselves for their strengths and areas for improvement that they themselves perceive what knowledge, skills, and attitudes they need to acquire to attain team goals. In the process, they attain individually excellence as well. An example is in the case of a musical orchestra: each member plays a different instrument. In order to achieve harmony of music from the different instrument, members will polish their part in the piece, aside from practicing as an ensemble. Consequently, they improve individually as an instrument player.
4. Coaching develops high commitment to common goals.
A coaching leader balances the attainment of immediate targets with long-term goals towards the vision of an organization. As mentioned earlier, with the alignment of personal goals with organizational or team goals, personal interests are kept in check. By constantly communicating the vision through formal and informal conversations, the members are inspired and motivated. Setting short-term team goals aligned with organizational goals; and making an action plan to attain these goals can help sustain the increased motivation and commitment to common goals of the members.
5. Coaching produces valuable leaders.
Leadership by example is important in coaching. A coaching leader loses credibility when he/she cannot practice what he/she preaches. This means that a coaching leader should be well organized, highly competent is his/her field, communicates openly and encourages feedback, and has a clear idea of the organization’s vision-mission-goals. By vicarious and purposive learning, members catch the same good practices and attitudes from the coaching leader, turning them into coaching leaders themselves. If a member experiences good coaching, he/she is most likely to do the same things when entrusted with formal leadership roles.
Some words of caution though: coaching is just one of the styles of leadership. It can be done in combination with the other five emotional leadership styles depending on the profile of the emerging team. Moreover, coaching as a leadership style requires that you are physically, emotionally, and mentally fit most of the time since it involves two levels of coaching: individual and team. Your members expect you to be the last one to give up or bail out in any situation especially during times of crises. A coaching leader must be conscious that coaching entails investing time on each individual, and on the whole team. Moreover, that the responsibilities are greater since while you are coaching members, you are also developing future coaches as well.
Manage your stress August 13, 2010
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1. Acknowledge stress is good
Make stress your friend! Based on the body’s natural “fight or flight” response, that burst of energy will enhance your performance at the right moment. I’ve yet to see a top sportsman totally relaxed before a big competition. Use stress wisely to push yourself that little bit harder when it counts most.
2. Avoid stress sneezers
Stressed people sneeze stress germs indiscriminately and before you know it, you are infected too!
Protect yourself by recognizing stress in others and limiting your contact with them. Or if you’ve got the inclination, play stress doctor and teach them how to better manage themselves.
3. Learn from the best
When people around are losing their head, who keeps calm? What are they doing differently? What is their attitude? What language do they use? Are they trained and experienced?
Figure it out from afar or sit them down for a chat. Learn from the best stress managers and copy what they do.
4. Practice socially acceptable heavy breathing
This is something I’ve learned from a gym instructor: You can trick your body into relaxing by using heavy breathing. Breathe in slowly for a count of 7 then breathe out for a count of 11. Repeat the 7-11 breathing until your heart rate slows down, your sweaty palms dry off and things start to feel more normal.
5. Give stressy thoughts the red light
It is possible to tangle yourself up in a stress knot all by yourself. “If this happens, then that might happen and then we’re all up the creek!” Most of these things never happen, so why waste all that energy worrying needlessly? Give stress thought-trains the red light and stop them in their tracks. Okay so it might go wrong – how likely is that, and what can you do to prevent it?
6. Know your trigger points and hot spots
Presentations, interviews, meetings, giving difficult feedback, tight deadlines…. My heart rate is cranking up just writing these down! Make your own list of stress trigger points or hot spots. Be specific. Is it only presentations to a certain audience that get you worked up? Does one project cause more stress than another? Did you drink too much coffee?
Knowing what causes you stress is powerful information, as you can take action to make it less stressful. Do you need to learn some new skills? Do you need extra resources? Do you need to switch to decaf?
7. Burn the candle at one end
Lack of sleep, poor diet and no exercise wreaks havoc on our body and mind. Kind of obvious, but worth mentioning as it’s often ignored as a stress management technique. Listen to your mother and don’t burn the candle at both ends!
So having stress can be a total drag, but that should not hinder us to find the inner peace of mind that we have wanted for a long time. In any case, one could always go to the Bahamas and bask under the summer sun.
Creating Effective and Efficient Relationships August 3, 2010
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Relationships of all kinds are often perceived as very delicate things, that require extra effort to maintain. However, a relationship can also be something that can provide security and can also be long lasting despite many trials. Building an effective and lasting relationships is a necessity for several reasons. For example in a group or organization, the well being of the people depends on how efficient and effective that group or organization works. The group or organization is also dependent on how the members work well with the management. An ineffective group or organization can really be very frustrating. An effective group or organization can also ask so much on their members, that sometimes the members would be having no life outside the walls of the area where they work or sacrifice the other aspects of their life just to meet deadlines. For an organization or group with this kind of scenario, relationships can be stressed or suffer from breakdown.
People or other entities who depend on these groups or organization also suffer.
Society is defined as a web of relationships, which requires all parties to work and contribute their share in order to achieve a common goal. Having a relationship that is good, where cooperation and respect are manifested, can make society work better. In this way each member works for the good of the whole and towards achieving a common goal. This can only be attained with effective and efficient relationships. Understanding the other parties’ feeling and position creates an effective and efficient relationship. The easiest method to understand what is important to another party is to ask them what they want and listen to what they have to say. When the other party realizes this, they would feel the importance given to them. Effective and efficient relationships require parties to openly express their feelings and positions on all matters pertinent on the relationship. Assuming that the other party understands our needs and give us when we need it without asking for it is not a good practice.
Respect is the key to relationship. In order to create a more effective relationship, parties should treat each other with respect. We can show respect just by listening to the other party and by trying sincerely to understand how they function. You can also show respect to other parties by confirming that they are doing everything they can. The opposite of respect is quick forming of judgements based on unfounded facts and prejudice.
Respect is the very foundation for a great relationship. This also means respecting yourself and respecting others.
Another key area in forming an effective relationship is to tackle differences of the other party directly. Differences between parties or people are quite interesting. For example in a conversation where each party listens to the other party, you may observe that each is having two different perspectives.
Work towards a win-win solution for both parties.
This can be done when at least one party acknowledges that the relationship is important. That party would then exert more time, effort and energy to understand the other party’s needs and deal with it to get it out of the way. Should they fail, it is comforting for that party to know that they tried. Effectively listening and no pre-judging. This is important if parties are to understand each other. Informal discussions are conducive for parties. They bring out issues and concerns comfortably. They also feel more relaxed making them think more clearly.
Developing an atmosphere where the other party can express their feelings when they need to.
When parties fail to express whatever is on their mind or their feelings, it can get in the way of building an effective relationship. Parties should be aware that certain things exist naturally but should be controlled in any dealings in any relationship. Human nature is one. Some of these things found in a relationship also include a history of stereotyping or mistrust, blaming the other person or party for a strained relationship, excluding the other party’s feelings when focusing on a task, no clear and defined objectives, roles and expectations of each party in a relationship is also unclear.
Relationships are important to anyone, addressing issues and problems right away is a must to further improve the relationship. As they say ‘No man is an Island’.
Self Improvement – Leader and Leadership August 3, 2010
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Most people are content just to stand around listening for orders. And it isn’t unusual to adopt a follow-the-leader mentality. But maybe, somewhere inside of you, you feel the desire to make things happen – to be the head, not the tail. Then maybe leadership just suits you fine. Some people believe that great leaders are made, not born. Yes, it may be true that some people are born with natural talents. However, without practice, without drive, without enthusiasm, and without experience, there can be no true development in leadership.
You must also remember that good leaders are continually working and studying to improve their natural skills. This takes a commitment to constantly improve in whatever endeavor a person chooses. First of all, let’s define leadership. To be a leader, one must be able to influence others to accomplish a goal, or an objective. He contributes to the organization and cohesion of a group. Contrary to what most people believe, leadership is not about power. It is not about harassing people or driving them using fear. It is about encouraging others towards the goal of the organization. It is putting everyone on the same page and helping them see the big picture of the organization. You must be a leader not a boss.
First of all, you have to get people to follow you. How is this accomplished?
People follow others when they see a clear sense of purpose. People will only follow you if they see that you know where you are going. Remember that bumper sticker? The one that says, don’t follow me, I’m lost too? The same holds true for leadership. If you yourself do not know where you’re headed to, chances are people will not follow you at all. You yourself must know the vision of the organization. Having a clear sense of hierarchy, knowing who the bosses are, who to talk to, the organization’s goals and objectives, and how the organization works is the only way to show others you know what you are doing.
Being a leader is not about what you make others do. It’s about who you are, what you know, and what you do. You are a reflection of what you’re subordinates must be. Studies have shown that one other bases of good leadership is the trust and confidence your subordinates have of you. If they trust you they will go through hell and high water for you and for the organization.
Trust and confidence is built on good relationships, trustworthiness, and high ethics.
The way you deal with your people, and the relationships you build will lay the foundation for the strength of your group. The stronger your relationship, the stronger their trust and confidence is in your capabilities. Once you have their trust and confidence, you may now proceed to communicate the goals and objectives you are to undertake. Communication is a very important key to good leadership. Without this you can not be a good leader. The knowledge and technical expertise you have must be clearly imparted to other people.
Also, you can not be a good leader and unless you have good judgment. You must be able to assess situations, weigh the pros and cons of any decision, and actively seek out a solution. It is this judgment that your subordinates will come to rely upon. Therefore, good decision-making is vital to the success of your organization. Leaders are not do-it-all heroes. You should not claim to know everything, and you should not rely upon your skills alone.
You should recognize and take advantage of the skills and talents your subordinates have. Only when you come to this realization will you be able to work as one cohesive unit. Remember being a leader takes a good deal of work and time. It is not learned overnight. Remember, also, that it is not about just you. It is about you and the people around you. So, do you have the drive and the desire to serve required of leaders? Do you have the desire to work cooperatively with other people? Then start now. Take your stand and be leader today.
Muhd Suhaily
